Life And Choices
Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. You can use the services of a personal life coach to help find your path.
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?
There are no guarantees.
You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.
Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.
Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.
Take the risk: decide.
Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads:
· Get as many information as you can about your situation.
You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.
· Identify and create options.
What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.
· Weigh the pros and cons of every option.
Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.
· Trust yourself and make that decision.
Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.
Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
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Personal Life Coach – Build Courage
In the Wizard of Oz, the lion found out at the end that he had courage the whole time. He just didn’t know how to recognize it and use it to his ability. A personal life coach will say that everyone has courage, it’s just a matter of using it.
Having courage helps one improve his/her life. You can’t expect to make changes in your life without courage. What does courage have to do with changing our lives? Everything. To have courage will help you get over your fears, fears of the unknown. Fear can take over your life and paralyze you in everything in your life. Of course there are two different types of fear. Its OK to experience fear at appropriate times. For instance,if you’re in a burning building, you certainly have the right to fear that. That is what you can call healthy fear, but to stand there and scream and do nothing is unhealthy fear. The problem is you have to put healthy fear in its place and unhealthy fear out of your life.
Once you build courage you will have more control of your life. You will learn to accept punishment and rewards gracefully. Courageous people are willing to face blame and responsibility and look at their actions as a learning tool and move forward. In most cases the courageous person is spontaneous. Planning what you will do tomorrow is not really good since no one knows what the day will bring. Think about it. How many times have you planned something all to see it shatter in your face the next day, which is why courageous people are sometimes spontaneous.
A courageous person knows how to roll with the punches. Willing to try new things because the old ones fail to produce the results he/she wanted.
There’s a old saying that inspires me quite often and I find myself saying it at least several times a month.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”
A person who is willing to improve their life will relax. this type of person will relax when the plans fail. To become successful and improve your life you will need to learn how to trust yourself. When we trust ourselves, we can trust others. We need to realize that we live in a world where trust isn’t an easy thing to find, yet when you trust yourself, you can’t blame others when things go wrong.
Do you accept?
Do you accept the things you cannot change? Do you accept the things you have control over? Do you accept other people regardless of how these people act? Do you accept you for who you are? Do you accept the changes that life brings your way?
Acceptance is your key to happiness. When you can learn to accept the good with the bad, you can learn how to live happier and improve your personal life. It takes courage to accept the way things are.
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Personal Life Coach – 10 Quotes To Inspire You
Each person handles stress different than the next one. How I deal with what goes on in my life is not the way my wife does. We are different from each other, so you can’t expect us to handle it the same way. A personal life coach would try and show you ways to handle stress.
My wife is the serious type who will analyze the situation to death and if it something that she has no control over, it stress’ her out even more. I take life serious, but when I get stressed I turn to humor. I’ll crack some jokes, look for the lighter side of things or something along those ways. I guess it’s my way to not have to deal with it too much.
We all need to be able to handle stress in our lives. No matter what it will always be there, it’s how we deal with it that helps us get through it. Sometimes it helps to laugh while facing the troubles in our life instead of with anger and frustration.
With that being said, I thought I’d share 10 quotes from Woody Allen, he seems to be able to add a little humor to whatever bad things that come around.
1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.
2. “I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it’s the government.”
3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?”
4. “Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions.”
5. “A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said ‘no’.”
6. “Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.”
7. “I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.”
8. “I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.”
9. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”
I find the next one to really sum it up for when things are getting ugly in our lives.
10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”
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